You know what you “should” be doing with food.
So why does it still feel so hard?
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For women who are tired of overeating, cravings and food noise, of trying to “be good” and then ending up in “fuck it-moments", and of constantly feeling like they need to get their food and their body back under control.
You probably don't need another diet, another set of rules or more information about what you should be eating. You need to understand what is actually driving the cycle that keeps bringing you back to the same place.Â
That's where my work begins.Â
EXPLORE WAYS TO BEGIN ↓You know what you want to do, but somehow you still end up doing the opposite.
You may wake up in the morning completely certain that today will be different. After last night, you genuinely don’t want to end up in the same place again, so maybe you decide to eat a little less, stay away from sugar, stop snacking or just be good today.
And for most of the day, you might be completely fine. You work, answer messages, make dinner, take care of everyone and everything that needs your attention, and maybe you even feel pretty good about food because you’ve eaten the way you planned to.
Then evening comes, you’re tired, and the conversation starts again...
You open the cupboard, tell yourself you’re not actually hungry and walk away. Five minutes later you’re back. "Maybe I’ll just have one." Then you’re standing there eating while another part of you is already saying don’t do this, you know where this ends...
And the strange thing is that you do know.
You know what you wanted to do. You know you don’t want to eat until you feel uncomfortably full. You may even be completely aware of what’s happening while it’s happening - and knowing that still isn’t enough to change what you do in that moment.
And if knowing what to do were the missing piece, you probably would have solved this a long time ago.
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Why Trying Harder Can Keep Bringing You Back To The Same Place
When food starts feeling out of control, trying to get back in control makes perfect sense. After an evening or a weekend when you’ve eaten much more than you intended to, having a plan again can actually feel like a relief. You decide what you’re going to eat, what you’re going to stay away from, maybe that you’re done with snacking for a while, and this time you’re really going to stick to it.
And for a while, that can work.
Until you’re hungrier than you expected to be, you eat something you’d decided was off-limits, you’re exhausted after a long day, or ordinary life simply doesn’t cooperate with the plan.
Suddenly, one piece of cake isn’t just one piece of cake anymore. It becomes “Well, I’ve already messed up now, so I might as well eat what I want and start again tomorrow.”
And tomorrow, the obvious conclusion is that you need to get better at sticking to the plan.
But this is where the cycle gets really interesting, because some of what you experience as “losing control” may actually be a predictable response to the way you’ve been trying to create control.
Not eating enough matters, and so does mental restriction - deciding certain foods are off-limits, constantly trying to eat less, or knowing that whatever you eat tonight will have to be compensated for tomorrow. Because when you already know you’re going to restrict again tomorrow, there can be a strange kind of logic in eating more tonight.
And suddenly the cycle starts to make a little more sense: you lose control, tighten the rules to get it back, eventually break those rules, go “fuck it”, and respond by tightening the grip again.
The very thing that makes you feel like you’re getting back in control can become part of what brings you back to the next moment where you feel like you’ve lost it.
So What Is Actually Driving Your Cycle?
Restriction and control can be a big part of this, but they’re rarely the whole story.
Maybe you’re regularly getting to the end of the day genuinely hungry because you haven’t eaten enough. Maybe you’ve spent years dividing food into things you’re allowed to eat and things you’re not, so eating one “wrong” thing can still turn into “fuck it, I’ve ruined today anyway.” Or food may have become one of the fastest and most reliable ways you’ve learned to get pleasure, comfort, a break or some kind of relief after a day spent running on empty.
And very often, several of these things are happening at the same time.
That’s why The Body of Freedom Method™ begins by understanding what is actually driving your particular cycle.
We may need to look at the nutritional and physiological side of what’s happening: what and how much you’re eating, whether you’re regularly getting too hungry, and whether your body is actually getting what it needs. We may need to look at food rules, restriction and the patterns of eating and control you’ve learned over time.
But we also need to understand what tends to be happening when the urge to eat becomes strongest. Are you stressed, exhausted or overwhelmed? What does eating change for you in that moment? Does it give you pleasure, help you switch off, calm something down or finally give you the break you haven’t allowed yourself all day? And what has been happening to your own hunger, tiredness, needs and boundaries in the hours leading up to it?
Because once we understand what is actually keeping your cycle going, we have somewhere much more useful to begin.
We can start changing what’s actually driving the pattern, instead of spending another year trying to control what happens at the very end of it.
When You're Getting Through Life More Than Living It
At some point, this can become about so much more than what happens when you overeat.
Because even on the days when the eating is “fine”, some part of your attention can still be on food and your body. You notice your stomach while you’re getting dressed, wonder whether your jeans feel tighter than they did last week, keep a quiet mental account of what you’ve eaten, or step on the scale in the morning and let that number decide how you feel about yourself before the day has even started.
And it follows you into moments that have nothing to do with food.
You change your outfit three times because suddenly everything feels wrong. Someone takes a photograph and your first thought is about how your body or your face will look in it. You meet someone you haven’t seen for a while and part of you is wondering whether they’ve noticed you’ve gained weight.
You go swimming and spend half the day thinking about your stomach, or you’re close to someone you love and still find yourself watching your own body from the outside, wondering what they might be noticing.
Meanwhile, the conversation about food keeps running alongside all of it: what you ate yesterday, what you’re allowed to eat today, whether you’ve been “good”, what you’ll do differently tomorrow, and when you’re finally going to “get your shit together” and lose the weight.
None of these moments may seem particularly significant on their own. But put them together over months and years, and that is an enormous amount of attention spent thinking about food, eating and your body while the rest of your life is happening right in front of you.
And I think this is where the longing often becomes much bigger than simply wanting to stop overeating or get rid of cravings. You want to eat and move on with your day. You want to get dressed, be in the photograph, go swimming, do the things you actually want to do, meet an old friend and actually be there for your own life while it’s happening, without constantly thinking about how your body looks while you’re living it.
At some point, you just want food and your body to stop taking up so much of your life.
What Freedom Can Actually Look Like
Freedom around food can be surprisingly ordinary.
You can have chocolate in the house and realize a week later that you completely forgot it was there. You can eat something you really enjoy without it turning into “I’ve ruined it now anyway”, and one meal can simply be one meal instead of the beginning of another “bad day” before you “start again” tomorrow.
The constant conversation can begin to quiet down too. You’re not spending half the day deciding what you’re allowed to eat later, mentally adding up what you’ve already had, wondering whether you need to compensate, or making another plan for Monday.
Monday can just become Monday again.
You can feel hungry without immediately wondering why you’re hungry or thinking you shouldn’t be, and make choices around food without every one of them becoming evidence of whether you’ve been “good” or “bad”. Some days you’ll eat differently than you normally do, or eat something simply because you really enjoy it, and it doesn’t have to become another argument with yourself or something you need to make up for tomorrow.
And taking care of your body can begin to feel different too. You can eat in a way that supports your health, build strength, move your body and make changes because they genuinely serve you and you like how they make you feel, rather than because you’re trying to compensate for what you ate yesterday or constantly trying to fix what you see in the mirror.
Your body can change and you can want it to change, but your entire life doesn’t have to revolve around trying to make that happen.
And maybe that’s what you mean when you say you just want to feel normal around food again. Not that you never think about food or your body, but that they stop demanding so much from you. The overeating can stop, the food noise can become quieter and cravings no longer have to feel like something you’re constantly fighting.
You can trust yourself around food without needing another set of rules to keep yourself in line, and take care of your body without having to spend your life trying to control it.
Ways To Begin
If you recognize yourself in what you’ve read here, you can start with my free 5-day course to understand your patterns better. Or, if you already know you want support in changing them, you can book a conversation with me.
Start with the free 5-day course
If you’ve spent a long time wondering why you keep ending up back in the same place with food, this is where I would begin.
Over five days, I’ll help you understand why knowing what to do isn’t always enough to change what happens in the moment, how trying to get back in control can become part of the cycle itself, and what may actually be driving the overeating, cravings and food noise.
Talk to me about working together
If you already know you want help changing this, you’re welcome to book a conversation with me.
We’ll talk about what’s been happening for you, what you want to change and what may be keeping your particular pattern going. I’ll also tell you more about The Body of Freedom Method™ and what working together could look like.
Booking a conversation doesn’t commit you to anything. It simply gives us a chance to meet and see whether working together feels like the right next step for you.
What Women Say After Doing This Work
"After working with Camilla, I have a completely different relationship with myself and my body. The struggles I used to have around food make so much more sense to me now, and I feel far more at ease in myself than I have in years. That investment was so worth it!"
- Helen M.
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"Anyone who struggles with food, overeating, body image, or constantly feeling at war with themselves should get Camilla's program on a prescription."
- Eva U.
"If you're anything like me and feel like you've already tried everything, this work offers a completely different way of understanding the struggle. For the first time, I stopped feeling like I needed another plan and started feeling like I was actually getting to the root of what had been keeping me stuck."
- Louise S.
"I've become a happier and more present wife and mother. Food takes up far less space in my mind, I'm losing weight without feeling like I'm on a diet, and I have more quality of life, better health, and more joy than I thought was possible. I finally feel like I can move toward my goals without putting my life on hold in the process."
- Anne O.
"This is so much more than another program or another method for fixing food. It has given me a greater sense of confidence, peace, and trust in myself, and that has affected far more than my eating."
- Stina L
"I make better choices around food without feeling like I'm constantly thinking about it. Healthy habits have become more natural, but what surprised me most was how much easier it became to listen to myself and take care of myself in everyday life."
- Lina M.
